When one realizes the person claiming to be their soul mate is really just a manipulative player who tells people what they want to hear and truth is relative, it is time to go. A lifetime of gaslighting, manipulation, lies, dishonesty and other nefarious interests and activities and the lying that goes with that can destroy a marriage and the supposed trust that should have been in place.
The person I thought was a lifetime partner ended up being such a huge disapppoinment as a human being. I really wish I had gotten out of my marriage many years ago. I came to realize we had very DIFFERENT value systems. Pretending to be a Christian, yet engaging in very non-Christian behaviors while trying to uphold a religious and moral false face was too much to bear. The habitual, pathological lying left me with nothing to really hold onto. I could ask him a question, then hear the lies and knew he was lost to me and probably himself also. Excessive porn use and the lying and shouting and anger toward the "true love" was a sudden bright light of truth. What was I waiting for? I realized that I deserved so much better.
So for any of you young women out there with lying disrespectful mates, don't wait, go now, don't waste your life on someone who does not respect you and is only concerned with their own needs, GO NOW! He will NOT change, it will only get worse as he gets older and soon he is screaming at you on a nearly daily basis and demanding his "Privacy" to indulge his porn addiction. Doesn't have time for family, his children or his grandchildren, he needs alone time with the computer. He can never truly LOVE you so stop waiting for it. He doesn't know the meaning of LOVE. Not going to happen! GO NOW find a decent man to spend time with. Let someone else deal with his bad behavior. YOU DESERVE BETTER. FREE YOUSELF!
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